Would you rather be judged for trying or judged for not trying?

Posted by Lauren Minicozzi on

Judgement. We've all experienced it in some way. We've all been the judger or the judgee.

We've all been victims of it. There is no escape. Unfortunately, we've been brought up in a society where it seems to be the norm to be judged or to be the judge. But who gave us this authority? Who gave us this power? Why do we think it is ok to do this?

At the end of the day, YOU will always be judged. Whether that be judged for trying. Judged for not trying. Judged for giving something a go. Judged for not giving something a go. Judged for giving up. Judged for not giving up. Judged for putting yourself first. Judged for not putting yourself first. Judged for saying yes. Judged for saying no. Judged for pretty much everything. Whether it be from one person, from 100 people or judged by 1000s of people. We live in a society that love to give their own two cents. Love to give their opinions. Love to think they know what decision is best for everyone. Love to pull people down. Love to feel their opinion is needed, when in fact, it is not. 

Some may say this is a reflection of the judger. Some may say it is a representation of how they feel internally. They may be fearful of taking the leap, so they may be judging you for taking that leap. They may be resenting themselves for the decisions they made prior, so they are trying to stop you from making the same decisions. They may be scared of the unknown so they are judging you for not being scared.

But the truth is, we can all learn from others but our experiences will always be different. Just because it didn't work for them, does not mean it will not work for you. Just because they may be fearful of the unknown, does not mean you are. We are all different. The damage is when people try to control circumstances they can not control and prevent someone else from learning a lesson they may need to learn.  We all approach things differently. You may change something in their way and make it work for you or you may come out of the situation with a different perspective. A shift in your mind. But this would not have happened if you allowed others judgements to dictate your decisions.

So I’m here to ask you, what would you rather? Would you rather be judged for trying or judged for not trying? Judged for giving something a go or judged for not giving something a go? At the end of the day, you’ll always be judged. This may be from others or may even be from yourself (after all we are our own worst critics). Judgement can come in many ways. So wouldn’t you rather try your hardest? Wouldn't you rather try your best? Go against the odds. Go against the naysayers and listen to yourself. Listen to that inner knowledge that knows what you need to do? Wouldn’t you rather have tried your hardest then always wonder WHAT IF? What if you gave it a go? What if it turned out the way you wanted? What if you achieved all? Wouldn’t you rather be judged for trying and not live with that voice in your head THAT'S screaming or whispering what if? 

Back yourself. Follow your dreams, achieve your goals, go against the odds. Don't allow judgements to dictate your decisions or dictate the way you feel about something. Don't allow others opinions to limit you from experiencing what you need to experience. 

Judgments can be a reflection of one's own insecurities, so do not allow one's insecurities to become your own. Trust yourself. 

Because at the end of the day, we will always be judged. So would you rather be judged for not trying and live with that inner voice always saying what if? Or be judged for trying something and learning from that experience?

Love from the Italian who loves to speak,

Lauren xo

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